Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Builder or Destroyer?

Recently I have really been trying to work on my attitude. I have never been one for conflict, but have found myself resenting my duties around the house. Always having to cook, (I very much dislike cooking), do laundry, load and unload the dishwasher. I wouldn't be able to sit down and relax after a long day at work with my husband until all the "necessary" house work was done. At times I would get bitter about it. I would think to myself, "Why do I always have to do the dishes, why am I always the one to cook, why when I wash and fold the clothes can't they be put away, do I have to do everything???" I'm sure I'm not the only one out there that feels this way. (I hope.)

Proverbs 14:1 "The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down."

Wow. I am single-handedly responsible for building up my home or tearing it down. The choice is mine: to be a part of the divine design or the devil's demolition. My son doesn't make me loose my temper, my husband doesn't cause me to feel exasperated. Proverbs is pretty clear. The choice is MINE.

Wow. That's heavy. And to think for years where women have fought for equal rights, we've missed the enormous amount of power that we have held since Eve was created: the power to build a home. You hear of these women who climb the corporate ladder and invest in businesses to make more money, but what about investing in our home? What about investing in life long marriages and raising Godly children. The Bible says that is a wise woman!

In Matthew 12:34 it says that out of the mouth the heart speaks. We use our mouths daily for expression and the source of our mouths and what we say is our heart. We (I) must be careful what I allow to linger there. I must think on the positive. For example what did Judah do new today and about how bright his future is... instead of how much he disobeyed me or threw a tantrum. I must think about my husband and how thankful I am for all of his hard work to provide for our family, how grateful I am for his companionship instead of other negative things that seem to jump in front of the positive. It's time for a heart overhaul in my life. It's time I started to dwell on the good that is under my roof and to build a home instead of tear it down.

My prayer is that I will open my eyes and shut my mouth when my actions are leaning towards destruction. I pray I choose inspiration instead of irritation. I pray I take the opportunity I've been given to be a wise builder wife and mother instead of a foolish destroyer.

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

"Mommyisms"

Judah's Pediatrician is awesome. He looks like Doogie Houwser (sp?) and has 7 kids. He's a great Christian guy with a dry sense of humor and is really laid back (which is perfect for this uptight mom). He also has a website of advise, tips and guidelines for parents of children under 2. There is one page that I enjoy and here are a few of his funny sayings. You moms will enjoy these!

- Boys will go to the doctor as long as their mother brings them. The next time they will go is when their wife makes them go.
- Your children will always be their sickest when your husband is out of town.
- The best exercise plan is do what your child does. Don't sit in the waiting room, run around the chair.
- The reason 2 year olds are so cute is because nobody would love them if they weren't.
-Everything is cuter when you are well rested.
- The best eyelashes are wasted on boys.
- People who think "boys and girls are just the same" never had a 18 month old boy.
- When choosing a Halloween Costume, boys pick out a weapon and then will take whatever costume goes with the weapon.
- The first night your new baby sleeps through the night, one of your other kids will wake you up.
- With their first child, parents come to the 4 month visit with sage 1 fruits and veggies alphabetized and organized in their cabinets. They are just waiting for the doctor to say "Go". With their second child, parents say, "Already? He's too young".
- Four year old boys are the definition of ADHD.
- Your children will begin to misbehave in public once you have a website that gives discipline advise.